DEALING WITH A JEALOUS LOVER.

HERE IS AN ISSUE THAT HAS RUINED MANY RELATIONSHIPS.
You are dating a guy and the first commandment he gives you is
'THOU SHALL HAVE NO OTHER MAN BESIDES ME. EITHER A FRIEND, A COUSIN, AN UNCLE EXCEPT YOUR FATHER.'
And you chuckle thinking it's a joke, only to be embarrassed by him whenever he sees you with some other guy.

OR

You have this lovely girl who seems to be the kind of lady you would love to take home to Mama but for her constant misbehaviour; She gets really physical with any girl she sees around you. What would you do?

You, who couldn't tolerate a boyfriend/girlfriend who went ballistic every time you glanced at another man/woman, are doing just that. And if you think your jealousy will keep him/her loyal, get real; jealousy tears relationships apart, as it will soon do to yours.

Below are 10 sage tips for keeping your distrust in check. But remember; although you're the one who's overreacting, his/her actions play a part in your reactions. Any of these techniques could backfire if employed without due care and prudence. You have been warned.

Number 10 Ask yourself why you're jealous

First, you have to get to the root of your feelings. The way you react to things has been wired into your brain over time, as your collective experiences shaped your character. Let's break them down and see which one resembles you:


Past experience: Your last girl cheated on you, and you've been on high guard ever since.
Projection:
You're a player yourself, dawdling amongst the womenfolk, so you assume that she's going behind your back as well.

You drink or take drugs: Yeah, toxic substances have that grating little side effect of making you a paranoid freak.

You're not used to a social woman: A woman who's always around friends, both male and female, is a foreign concept, therefore untrustworthy.

You're insecure: Let's face it; you don't think you're good enough for her, so you go crazy with the thought of losing her.

You're a pessimist: You think that all good things must come to an end, and this one surely will. That is, unless you make an ass of yourself trying to prolong it with excessive protection.

She told you about her past: So she's an experienced one and her old flames are still in town. The thought of her sleeping with ex-boyfriends drives you nuts.
She always wants to have sex with you:
Here's one you didn't expect, but her uncanny sexual appetite gets you green-eyed. You fear that if you're not around, she'll want to have sex with another guy.

Number 9

Have her turn the tables
Nothing like a mirror to make you see how silly you look. If you're the controlling type who calls her every hour to inquire about where she is, have her do the same to you.
After a few days of incessant and irritating check-up calls, you'll realize that it's annoying and irrational. You'll see that not being in your sight 24/7 really isn't that big a deal.

Number 8 Speak to her friends & family

Talk to the people who know her best sincerely and candidly. Ask them in a non-confrontational way to talk about your girl, and let them reassure you what a good woman you have.

Also try hanging out with her friends to know more about that part of her world (i.e. the world without you). Maybe you'll see that, hey, they're not all two-timing tarts like you once thought.

Number 7 Face your fears
If you think that each second away from you is a man-tasting party, go out with her and see how harmless her nights out really are. You should meet all her friends, especially her guy friends. The cold hard facts will keep your imagination from scuttling away.

Number 6 Inquire if you're curious
Yes, you might even want to do the unthinkable and -- it's a long shot, but -- talk to her about it. Articulate how you've been feeling and she'll do her best to reassure you there's nothing to worry about. If you must, get details on her time away. So if she tells you she's working late, for example, ask with whom and how long she'll be.

I'll tell you more tomorrow, Please keep a date!