A crush is unarguably the pressing- feeling to have a relationship with an individual; male or female. With the way crushes come, you could feel you will never remain the same except you have romantic dealings with the individual you idolize. Some crushes could make one loose his sense of belonging. You sulk or over-react to draw the other’s attention. Sometimes, the belongings of this individual in your possession could turn to the person in your mind but no matter what it seems, it could be frustrating.
Crushes come in various forms. Some could be mild; in the space of some minutes, it’s gone, while some could be intense and last for months.
The irony of crushes is the person you have a crush on may not know you are going through a tough time within you. He or She may have the same feelings towards someone else. Having a crush on someone is not a sin but the motive behind it; the imaginations you carry, could be sinful. Almost everyone walking on the surface of planet earth has encountered one at a point in his life. So don’t feel you are the only one in this.
I once had a crush on a young man, I felt I would die if he did not accept me. I had it going for a period of 11 months but i could not tell him and coincidentally, he never knew I had this crush on him. I emaciated, lost appetite, lost focus in my studies because he occupied my thoughts. When I finally had the chance to get really close to him (not dating him), I began to see many things about him I detested. He was proud, he believed he would never ask a girl out, girls always asked him out, he womanized, I would not want to make him look so dirty but the point is, he was not worth the stress. The crush left in a rush and never returned. If a guy has a crush on a lady, it’s easy to tell the girl the way he feels but the reverse is the case for a girl. What if the guy makes jest of you before his friends???
Now I’m not trying to be a feminist here. The feeling of being turned down is worse than the crush itself so what do you do if the crush is crushing you?
THE WAY OUT
I) Is he worth the stress? Find out who this guy or girl is.
II) If the feeling is crushing, pick out a flaw of his or hers and kill the feeling with it.
III) Occupy your mind with something else. Learn something new.
IV) The hurt of rejection is worse than a crush. Think of this and retrace your thought.
V) You could joke about it with friends; the warmth of friends can fade hurt.
VI) If you are a guy, you could try telling the person what you feel but for ladies, Don’t!
VII) If you ask a guy out and he accepts you, the wheel of the relationship is all yours to steer. You will be going after the man in search of his love while he may be running after someone else.
VIII) It is either a man loves you from his heart or he does it out of sympathy. With time he will grow out of that feeling and go after the lady of his heart.
IX) Men love being the chaser not being chased after.
X) Ask God to give you the grace to overcome the crush.
My dear, give it time and it will fade. It may sound hard but believe me, it works. You deserve someone who would love you from the depth of his or her heart. God does. He will never laugh at you for opening up to him. He will rather help you get out of it and provide you with one who will love you from the depth of his or her heart. If you are a guy and you have opened up to a lady about your feelings and all she did was turn you down, never mind. She does not deserve you. Give God a chance and in less than no time, you will have someone who would give anything to have you.
