Loneliness

Loneliness is a painful and frightening life experience for some people. Women over age 55 are more likely to report loneliness than other women. Death, moving away or divorce can cause people to feel lonely. Older adults are a significant group of people who experience a lonely lifestyle. Growing old can bring people into the situations that makes them feel and live in emotional and social isolation.

Loneliness is different from solitude or depression. Some people think that social activities can relieve loneliness. Actually, "company" may not cure loneliness for the long term. Social activities can reduce a sense of loneliness temporarily; however, a lonely person needs to have meaningful activities and true friends to care, share and support. It takes time and courage to explore and meet their needs to reduce loneliness. Here are some ways to handle loneliness:

n Form new relationships which may repair a sense of emptiness and loneliness.

n Be confident about your ability to deal with loneliness. Remember, if you make some effort, things can become better.

n Spend your energy on friendships, groups and activities which you like.

n Work with people on special projects.

n Build and maintain your social network. Keep in touch with people to help you find acceptance and belonging.

n Do things for others. Volunteering to help people or the community will let you feel good about yourself. If there is no volunteer work in your community, you may get some projects going.

n Work. Do some work every day at least. Work is a natural antidote to reduce loneliness. Work at home can be joyful, however, work at the workplace can expand opportunities to interact.

n Believe in yourself. This builds your confidence and competency to control your lifestyle. Remember, you are the only one who can get rid of the feeling of loneliness.